Relationship Advice: $1.50 – Part 1
Good relationships are heavenly!
But bad ones suck!
You’ve probably had both. What you’ll get from this and the next two posts is a bit of advice on a couple of basic elements of the best and worst relationships. You want the good ones… so do I. So let’s jump in.
When you hear me speak, you discover the three keys to preparing for, and handling well, those times in life when The Unexpected shows up.
You learn these keys from the true story I tell where, if you’d been with me:
- You’re in a 6-passenger, single engine plane flying from Tacoma WA to Denver Co.
- You’re one of three passengers, plus me as your pilot
- Somewhere over northern Colorado, that single engine quits.
- We coast through the air, propeller windmilling.
- I’m calm, but you’re freaking out.
- I recall the three words my flight instructor taught me in training:
Aviate – Navigate – Communicate
That’s a teaser. To find out what happened, you either read the book or hire me to speak! (yes, I enjoyed writing that.)
Aviate: Fly the plane! First, before anything else, fly the plane. Keep the basics under control. Otherwise, no matter what else you do, you’re probably going down!
Navigate is in three parts: Know where you’re at, figure out where you’re going to land, plan your route to get there. Applied to life, first know what is available where you are right now… what assets, resources, gifts, talents, abilities do you have? Then, where do you want to be when this experience is over? Finally, what steps will you take to get from here to there?
Communicate: Tell someone what’s going on, and get their feedback. The key here is that the feedback needs to be from someone not emotionally involved in your situation.
This short series on relationships is from the first step: Aviate. The basics.
1. You’ll discover, first of all, why Jerry McGuire had it wrong! “You complete me” is a recipe for disaster, and you’ll see why in the next blog post… later today.
2. You’ll also discover the #1 relationship killer, as I see it… even later today.
Not that I see everything. I’m what I call a “$1.50 psychologist,” meaning I’ll give you what I think, along with the disclaimer, “But what do I know?” I got that from Peanut’s Lucy who charged 5-cents for advice, but there’s been inflation since then. And I have a degree. But not in psychology.
With that, I ask for your input:
What do you see as the biggest killer of relationships? (I know… you’re waiting for my post, but give it your best shot!)